Masks or Truth - Which one would you choose ??

Masks - A covering for all or part of face worn as disguise.
Most people wear masks everyday whether in professional life or personal life. But do we realize that this is the main cause of all the worry . To deal with people , we modify the truth or present the truth in a way that the receiver would find that good. Don't we do it ? In case the answer is no , you need not read further as you are one of the persons who speak the truth always .
People think before they say about what would other person think if i make this statement. I cannot afford to break my friendship/ relationship with the other person. I would like to tell you all that this is something which would make you feel conscious or may develop a guilt in you. Don't be like that.
Understand one thing "It's not love on which strongest foundations are built , they are built on the decency of merciful lies ... Period !!!" . Do not lie to people whom you care about.
People change over a course of time. People who were once a good friend rarely talk now. People say that I cannot speak the truth in every relation else it would break my friendship or relationship . Don't get scared of loosing people in life because if someone wants to be in your life he/she would always be and if someone doesn't want to be with you , no matter how hard you try they never will.
Let's discuss about importance of truth in a friendship.Good friends are those whom you can call anytime or with whom you can do anything you want. Just realize one thing always be truthful to a friend whom you do not want to loose in life. Trust is the most important thing in friendship either you trust a person or you don't that's it. If you lie in a friendship at any point of time , that friendship will start fading away in a course of time.
Same goes for relationships . No need to elaborate on that.
Stop being selfish and care about people !! Respect them instead of manipulating them with a lie !!

Masks can help you in short course but truth will help you in long run !!!

Embrace yourself !!!!!!!!!!

This is the post from one of my friends . Her feeling expressed and that's it. You would like this.

Failure! I faced it today… very badly. Yes I failed in something that I thought I would be able to do! I felt like a complete loser…. I even told myself that I suck, “XYZ, you suck”

Jab kabhi bade kuch bole toh sunn leni chahiye unki baat, varna pachtaaoge!

Today morning I was warned by my Mom for not driving. She had explicitly told me that “There will be too many cars on the roads, its heavy traffic time. Please DO NOT drive”. And I cared 2 hoots about that. I was super confident that I would be able to take it through.

I knew my weakness. I knew where I lacked. I had faced similar situations before. In spite of that, I decided to drive the car today. As I was driving, my car stopped on the highway. It stopped multiple times. It may have stopped 3-4 times. I looked like an absolute fool, trying to start my car every time it stopped. Too many people were honking behind my car. There was an Auto driver who even came and abused me. He called me a ‘Mother fucker’. I felt like crying at that moment. I was in the middle lane, trying to start my car. I tried 2-3 times but I could not start it. Finally there wasn’t any option and I had to start my car. It was a bit of a slope and my car moved behind. I pulled the emergency brake immediately. Didn’t know what to do, just did what I felt was right at that moment. There was a maroon colored Honda city behind my car. I guess I almost bumped my car into it. But pulled the emergency brake at the right time.

My only motive at that point of time was to take the car in the left most lane and to call a friend for help. Frankly speaking, after all that happened on the highway, I had lost all my confidence to drive again. I was praying in pain and trying to drive. With immense efforts, I skipped a flyover, drove it till the left most lane and parked it in the side.

I kept calling my friend. As soon as he came, I broke down. We managed to reach office with the car. He helped me by driving it till the office from the point this incident occurred. I was out of my mind. Didn’t know what to do with had happened. I was just not feeling right. I kept crying badly.

I locked myself in a washroom and kept crying…

Finally there came a voice. It was my inner voice. It said “Stop, Stop crying right now”. Champions don’t cry. Papa ki tarah champion bann na hai na, roke kuch nahi hoga. You have to pick yourself right now. You have to pick yourself every time you fall. And that’s the only way to live life.

In this world, there are two kinds of people.

First category ---> People who sit and sulk. They cry each time they fail and they keep crying there on.

Second category ---> People who cry each time they fail but they know to pick themselves up. They work harder every time they fall only to grow up as a “Winner”

And I belong to the second category. I just won’t give up. This is my life and I am not a loser. I have to work harder than the previous time, learn from my mistakes and evolve as a driver. I won’t give up. Yes, I am serious and I mean it.

I will start working on my weaknesses from today itself. This will ensure that I do better the next time. It doesn’t matter to fail. Everyone fails. What matters is, how well you pick yourself up each time you fail. And I am going to do just that.

I will learn what I’m not good at and try again!!!!

XYZ will fall, she will fail but she will learn from her mistakes and that’s what matters the most to her. Love and embrace yourself! :)

Love is a waste of time but i want to waste my time !!!!!

Have you heard this one from the movie 'PK' ?? Did you like this song ?? Love!! Everyone falls in love sometime in their life. And most of us don't realize it when we have fallen for someone or when we have started appreciating or ignoring the negatives of the other person.Also,most of us blame the other person when our relationship gets messed up.I have seen a lot of my friends often saying "Bhai pyaar ho gaya tere bhai ko"(male friends) or "I love someone a lot"(female friends) and i keep thinking "Isko saal mein kitni baar pyaar hota hai and kitno se"(How many times in a year does he fall in love?). Is this really love ??

In my opinion , this is not love. Most of the time you call it love but its a phase of attraction, infatuation, emotional support etc which helps you to define all these things as love but actually love is also bigger than this... Love is not always about being with someone all the time, spending your time with someone or discuss anything freely with the other person or getting attracted to a hot guy or girl. Love is much much bigger than this. I am sorry to say that Love has become calculative these days. To explain you this i will quote certain examples.In the present world, girls fall in love for life long where they see their future secured financially. Have you ever seen a girl falling in love with someone who is destitute or not able to afford living? No offense !! Boys are no different they also weigh the pros and cons before falling in love nowadays.

Love is not always about being with someone.It is always about understanding and caring for the other person so much that you can do anything for them even to the extent of going away from their life or not meeting them if you see the other person in trouble or some situation which calls for the same. People do fall in love these days and also expect the other person to fall in love with them.That cannot be the case my dear friend , this is not love. You can never force someone to love you in return or do favors for you just because they love you or you love them. You cannot expect that everyone has a different opinion. You should always be there for them as a true friend and help them always.Also,there are some people who try very hard to make their relationship work but this is not the right way my dear friend because if someone loves you and you love them then relationship will always work no matter what and you won't have to try to make it work. Just give everything a time and you will realize what is best for you. Even if you cannot get a person you love , you might get some better person . Take life positively you will definitely find someone better. Meanwhile just focus on the priorities in hand and make a list whatever you want to do. Frankly speaking just don't waste your time too much on love . Love will happen only when it is bound to happen neither before nor after just don't force it to happen just because you want to.
 

Be Fearless!!!! That's the way to lead life..

This is my first blog. I thought a lot about which topic to write and came to this one. Has anyone of you ever thought why we are struggling in life ?? Why we are not able to achieve our goals whether short term or long term ? How many of us retrospect when we fail?? Answer is very few. The reason behind this is we are too scared to accept the fact that something is wrong with us or we do not have some quality. We live in a world where we always fear about the consequences of our action before even we perform any action.
A lot of times we do not even take a first step just because we think it's of no use , we will fail only so why are we doing it. Fear of failure grips up in this case. You know why winners win . It's actually because they face their fear with courage. They at least try instead of thinking of results. That is what is the difference my friend , we need to overcome this fear.

Let me explain this to you by example. Few years earlier,during interview for IIM Ahmedabad candidates were asked to jump out of the window from the 31st Floor of the building . Can you believe that an interviewer asked you to jump from 31st floor to get into IIM ? Most of the people gave up sorry sir i am scared of heights or i cannot do this. There was this guy who just analyzed the everything and then jumped out of the window and he got selected. Surprised i know you are . Actually outside the window there was a balcony at a which was just 3 feets down from the window . He jumped out of the window to balcony and came inside . This is what is the difference between winners and losers . Winners are not afraid of anything.

Another fear which haunts a lot of people is that "What will people say?". If I do this , then people will say bad about me they might even curse me or they might even not talk to me or make fun of me.
One of the best examples is fear of public speaking.A lot of us are afraid to speak in public just because of this fear that what would people say or my friends would make fun of me if I do something stupid in public. They will always tease me every time. So what we do is we run away from the situation , we try not to speak in public or we make excuses that i will not be able to speak in public and what not.

 One thing what I have learnt from my experiences is that people say a lot of bullshit don't ever listen to them.Some people say that this is impossible to do or you cannot do this or that .All this is bullshit. I believe people who are not capable of achieving things which you are trying to achieve say all these things just because they do not want you to achieve this.

Another important thing is about relationships. We tend to make compromises in relationships just because we love someone a lot and we have a fear that our relationships might be broken if we do not do this. This fear makes people do a lot of things which they don't want to and they even kill their desires and let the other person dominate sometimes. As long as you are doing it because you want to do it or actually the other person requires your support it's OK to do it . But if this thing happens a lot of times in a relationship then i am sorry to say my friend such a relationship will not work for a long time. Get out of this just do what you want to do because this is our life i don't want any other person to take a control of it. Think as if you are the King / Queen of your life and act in that way only.

Sometimes,We love someone a lot secretly but we do not express it just because of the fear that the other person might leave you or might not talk to you anymore. Just say so to the other person if he/she is your good friend he/she will understand your feelings and take actions accordingly. A lot of times we tend to over think about reaction of the person and we do not speak the truth which results into stress. So Speak fearlessly.

Sometimes we do something which is against the rules of so called society , we are afraid that people will say a lot of negative things or we will loose our image in society if this happens . We cannot marry a person from other religion or something like that. All this is bullshit . Just be fearless. 

Biggest disease in this world is "What will people say ?". Sabse bada rog kya kahenge log?

At last , I would just like to say that be fearless . Just do what you want to do really . Enjoy what you are doing . Don't fall in the trap of fear as this is a vicious cycle which will take every single joy of your life and kill all of your desires.