Love is a waste of time but i want to waste my time !!!!!

Have you heard this one from the movie 'PK' ?? Did you like this song ?? Love!! Everyone falls in love sometime in their life. And most of us don't realize it when we have fallen for someone or when we have started appreciating or ignoring the negatives of the other person.Also,most of us blame the other person when our relationship gets messed up.I have seen a lot of my friends often saying "Bhai pyaar ho gaya tere bhai ko"(male friends) or "I love someone a lot"(female friends) and i keep thinking "Isko saal mein kitni baar pyaar hota hai and kitno se"(How many times in a year does he fall in love?). Is this really love ??

In my opinion , this is not love. Most of the time you call it love but its a phase of attraction, infatuation, emotional support etc which helps you to define all these things as love but actually love is also bigger than this... Love is not always about being with someone all the time, spending your time with someone or discuss anything freely with the other person or getting attracted to a hot guy or girl. Love is much much bigger than this. I am sorry to say that Love has become calculative these days. To explain you this i will quote certain examples.In the present world, girls fall in love for life long where they see their future secured financially. Have you ever seen a girl falling in love with someone who is destitute or not able to afford living? No offense !! Boys are no different they also weigh the pros and cons before falling in love nowadays.

Love is not always about being with someone.It is always about understanding and caring for the other person so much that you can do anything for them even to the extent of going away from their life or not meeting them if you see the other person in trouble or some situation which calls for the same. People do fall in love these days and also expect the other person to fall in love with them.That cannot be the case my dear friend , this is not love. You can never force someone to love you in return or do favors for you just because they love you or you love them. You cannot expect that everyone has a different opinion. You should always be there for them as a true friend and help them always.Also,there are some people who try very hard to make their relationship work but this is not the right way my dear friend because if someone loves you and you love them then relationship will always work no matter what and you won't have to try to make it work. Just give everything a time and you will realize what is best for you. Even if you cannot get a person you love , you might get some better person . Take life positively you will definitely find someone better. Meanwhile just focus on the priorities in hand and make a list whatever you want to do. Frankly speaking just don't waste your time too much on love . Love will happen only when it is bound to happen neither before nor after just don't force it to happen just because you want to.
 

Be Fearless!!!! That's the way to lead life..

This is my first blog. I thought a lot about which topic to write and came to this one. Has anyone of you ever thought why we are struggling in life ?? Why we are not able to achieve our goals whether short term or long term ? How many of us retrospect when we fail?? Answer is very few. The reason behind this is we are too scared to accept the fact that something is wrong with us or we do not have some quality. We live in a world where we always fear about the consequences of our action before even we perform any action.
A lot of times we do not even take a first step just because we think it's of no use , we will fail only so why are we doing it. Fear of failure grips up in this case. You know why winners win . It's actually because they face their fear with courage. They at least try instead of thinking of results. That is what is the difference my friend , we need to overcome this fear.

Let me explain this to you by example. Few years earlier,during interview for IIM Ahmedabad candidates were asked to jump out of the window from the 31st Floor of the building . Can you believe that an interviewer asked you to jump from 31st floor to get into IIM ? Most of the people gave up sorry sir i am scared of heights or i cannot do this. There was this guy who just analyzed the everything and then jumped out of the window and he got selected. Surprised i know you are . Actually outside the window there was a balcony at a which was just 3 feets down from the window . He jumped out of the window to balcony and came inside . This is what is the difference between winners and losers . Winners are not afraid of anything.

Another fear which haunts a lot of people is that "What will people say?". If I do this , then people will say bad about me they might even curse me or they might even not talk to me or make fun of me.
One of the best examples is fear of public speaking.A lot of us are afraid to speak in public just because of this fear that what would people say or my friends would make fun of me if I do something stupid in public. They will always tease me every time. So what we do is we run away from the situation , we try not to speak in public or we make excuses that i will not be able to speak in public and what not.

 One thing what I have learnt from my experiences is that people say a lot of bullshit don't ever listen to them.Some people say that this is impossible to do or you cannot do this or that .All this is bullshit. I believe people who are not capable of achieving things which you are trying to achieve say all these things just because they do not want you to achieve this.

Another important thing is about relationships. We tend to make compromises in relationships just because we love someone a lot and we have a fear that our relationships might be broken if we do not do this. This fear makes people do a lot of things which they don't want to and they even kill their desires and let the other person dominate sometimes. As long as you are doing it because you want to do it or actually the other person requires your support it's OK to do it . But if this thing happens a lot of times in a relationship then i am sorry to say my friend such a relationship will not work for a long time. Get out of this just do what you want to do because this is our life i don't want any other person to take a control of it. Think as if you are the King / Queen of your life and act in that way only.

Sometimes,We love someone a lot secretly but we do not express it just because of the fear that the other person might leave you or might not talk to you anymore. Just say so to the other person if he/she is your good friend he/she will understand your feelings and take actions accordingly. A lot of times we tend to over think about reaction of the person and we do not speak the truth which results into stress. So Speak fearlessly.

Sometimes we do something which is against the rules of so called society , we are afraid that people will say a lot of negative things or we will loose our image in society if this happens . We cannot marry a person from other religion or something like that. All this is bullshit . Just be fearless. 

Biggest disease in this world is "What will people say ?". Sabse bada rog kya kahenge log?

At last , I would just like to say that be fearless . Just do what you want to do really . Enjoy what you are doing . Don't fall in the trap of fear as this is a vicious cycle which will take every single joy of your life and kill all of your desires.